The 20 Most Frequently Asked Questions for Guys Getting Over Divorce
Among the questions we get asked the most by men facing divorces, these lead the list:
1. Why did my wife leave me? What can I do to get her back?
2. Does separation mean divorce is inevitable?
3. Do I have to use an attorney to get a divorce? How do I know if I can trust one?
4. What should I discuss with my wife before hiring a divorce attorney? What should I NOT discuss?
5. How do I break the news to the kids? Does divorce always hurt them?
6. My friends say I should throw a “divorce celebration’” party. Is this OK to do, especially if I have kids?
7. I don’t think I can get over my divorce until I get back at her. I think about it all the time, but I don’t want to hurt the kids. How can I let go and what do I do to move on?
8. What can I do if my ex-wife alienates me from the kids?
9. My friends say I should start dating again, and my family says it’s too soon. How do I know what to do?
10. Where does a divorced guy like me go to meet a good woman?
11. When should a dating relationship become sexual? What do I absolutely need to know about post-divorce sex?
12. Sex is good with my new girlfriend, but I’m not sure I EVER want to get married again. How will I know if I’m ready for a committed relationship?
13. When should I meet her children? What if her kids don’t like me?
14. I had an affair, and I'm hot for my new love. Should I leave the marriage and not look back?
15. My wife and I do not agree about custody of the children. I heard that sometimes a psychologist decides where the children will live. How does that work?
16. What can I do about my sense of failure?
17. What if I am convinced about "Parental Alienation Syndrome"?
18. I'm not young, and when I "come", it takes a great deal of time for me to feel sexy again. Same thing when masturbating. What's going on?
19. How do I tell the ex about my new love? Or do I?
20. What are typical wedding issues I should be aware of for my second marriage?
1. Why did my wife leave me? What can I do to get her back?
2. Does separation mean divorce is inevitable?
3. Do I have to use an attorney to get a divorce? How do I know if I can trust one?
4. What should I discuss with my wife before hiring a divorce attorney? What should I NOT discuss?
5. How do I break the news to the kids? Does divorce always hurt them?
6. My friends say I should throw a “divorce celebration’” party. Is this OK to do, especially if I have kids?
7. I don’t think I can get over my divorce until I get back at her. I think about it all the time, but I don’t want to hurt the kids. How can I let go and what do I do to move on?
8. What can I do if my ex-wife alienates me from the kids?
9. My friends say I should start dating again, and my family says it’s too soon. How do I know what to do?
10. Where does a divorced guy like me go to meet a good woman?
11. When should a dating relationship become sexual? What do I absolutely need to know about post-divorce sex?
12. Sex is good with my new girlfriend, but I’m not sure I EVER want to get married again. How will I know if I’m ready for a committed relationship?
13. When should I meet her children? What if her kids don’t like me?
14. I had an affair, and I'm hot for my new love. Should I leave the marriage and not look back?
15. My wife and I do not agree about custody of the children. I heard that sometimes a psychologist decides where the children will live. How does that work?
16. What can I do about my sense of failure?
17. What if I am convinced about "Parental Alienation Syndrome"?
18. I'm not young, and when I "come", it takes a great deal of time for me to feel sexy again. Same thing when masturbating. What's going on?
19. How do I tell the ex about my new love? Or do I?
20. What are typical wedding issues I should be aware of for my second marriage?
For more answers and helpful resources The Guys-Only Guide to Getting Over Divorce by Sam J. Buser, Ph.D. & Glenn F. Sternes, Ph.D. is the single best resource for men facing divorce. Easy to read, lively, down to earth, and definitely guy-friendly. One of the best tools for lawyers, family doctors, therapists, and health-care professionals — every office should have a dozen copies. Written by nationally recognized experts in men’s issues.